Pregnancy Loss

The Faces of Grief

Grief. A word that many people want to skip over. We don't want to admit the sting it has on our souls. We want to skip over it and move forward without facing it. I get it. I did this for over a decade. I experienced pregnancy loss for the first time in my early 20s. I was young, unmarried and SO LOST! 

There are many faces that grief can take on. There is anger, guilt, sadness, loneliness, shame, fear, bitterness, depression, physical pain, inability to focus, eating too much, eating too little, sleeping to much or insomnia. With pregnancy or infertility grief, I would even say we go through this painful and unique yearning. We yearn for our baby we lost. 

The faces of grief can seem so ugly. We want to run away from them. BUT, what IF, what if the faces of grief can be beauty? What if God wants to turn our pain around into a purpose, into a hope? What if you have the power to choose what face of grief looks like on your journey of healing? The thing is, that we do. We have the power within ourselves to choose beauty or ashes, hope or hopelessness, joy or sadness. Trust me, I know this sounds SO hard. I have been there. BUT when I finally got to a point where I could understand this truth, I was set free. Sure, my heart still ached for the babies I have lost (I'm guessing my heart always will), BUT I CHOSE that pain to have purpose. I chose for that pain to be turned into love and a closer relationship with Him. 

I chose to allow God to turn the faces of grief I was experiencing to faces of love, grace, joy, acceptance, mercy, courage, hope, healing and health. We need him to experience a different kind of grief, one that is not of the world. 

What faces of grief are you experiencing today? Let go and let God love you through! 

Her Soul Purpose Scholarship

Every so often, I like to give away scholarships for 1:1 coaching with me. I haven't done it in a while, so it's about that time! I'll be giving away FIVE Scholarships for some 1:1 Pregnancy Loss Grief Coaching.

If you, or if you know somebody who has experienced pregnancy loss and could benefit from some 1:1 coaching, please share this link with them. All information remains confidential!

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Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month is a super special month for me.  This month is a month of not only spreading awareness of this tragedy but it’s also an opportunity for us to remind mommies that they are loved and cherished!

Pregnancy and infant loss affects more than just the woman but this loss affects the whole family!  When a woman experiences a pregnancy loss, they don’t lose “just a pregnancy” but they lose a child.  I have personally experienced multiple pregnancy losses and each one has been devastating.  I think about each child at different times and my heart aches for each of them.  My husband and I currently do not have a living child and sometimes that reality breaks my heart.

This type of loss is real.  If you know somebody that has experienced pregnancy or infant loss, please know that they lost their child.  They experienced a death in their family and that type of pain doesn’t go away over night!

Use this month as an opportunity to pray for the women and families in your life who have experienced this type of loss.  Reach out to them and remind them that you love them and that today, you remember their little angel.  When somebody loses a grandma or grandpa, we acknowledge that loss and comfort them.  We should offer that same support for a woman who has lost a pregnancy or a newborn.

I’m thankful for this month and I’m thankful that women are speaking up more when it comes to their broken hearts and are breaking the shame when it comes to pregnancy loss!!  My heart is with all of you women and families who have gone through this! I’m praying for you and I love you! You are more than a mother who lost your baby but you are a mother of courage and love!

National Grief Awareness Day

I’m so thankful Angie Cartwright founded National Grief Awareness Day in 2014.  This day is a day for us to be aware of the grief all around us.  Many are grieving and they go unnoticed.  If somebody passes away, we might hug them and tell them we are here for them but sadly life goes on for everybody.  We all go back to our days of busy work, busy families and events.  There is nothing wrong with that, that’s life.  That’s why I am thankful for a day of awareness for grief.

Be aware of the women and couples who struggle with infertility or have experienced pregnancy loss and long for a baby to fill those empty baby shoes we have stuffed in the back of our closet.

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Remember that we go through an invisible grief that some people just won’t understand. We grieve and we feel a loss that is so unique and so novel.  So, if you have a woman or a couple in your life who struggle from either of these, whether you understand it or not, make sure to reach out to them often and just love them.  Darin and I are so blessed with an amazing support system who does just this and they will never know how much their love means to us.

Today, if you have anybody in your life who is grieving, let today remind you of somebody else’s pain.  Send them encouraging words, a scripture or just simply reach out and say, “I love you.”  We don’t always want to talk about our grief or our pain but we do have those bad days where a sporadic text from a loved one can make a world of difference.

National Grief Awareness Day – It matters.